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Posted by: thepinetree on 07/11/2014 05:00 PM Updated by: thepinetree on 07/16/2014 01:09 PM
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Tyler Paul “Taffy” Tafjen 1997 - 2014

Copperopolis, CA....Tyler Paul “Taffy” Tafjen, 16, passed away in his home on July 8, 2014. He was born October 7, 1997 in Berkeley California, the son of Donald and Karen Tafjen. He was entering his Senior year at Bret Harte High School where he was a 3 year member of the baseball team and FFA. Tyler was a boy who loved his life in Copperopolis. Baseball has been his life since the age of 4 ½ from Little League to high school and proudly making the Varsity team his Sophomore year. His passions were baseball, fishing, dirt bike riding, mountain and BMX biking, Country music, his '86 Jeep Comanche and his friends...



Tyler is survived by his parents Donald and Karen Tafjen, and his little sister Ellie Tafjen of Copperopolis. He also leaves behind his grandparents Donald and Virginia Tafjen of Orinda; his grandmother Shou-Ting Wilson of West Sacramento; his Aunts Marcie Wilson and Betsy Bushnell of Davis; his Aunt Stephanie and Uncle Christopher and cousins Hannah and Madison Rawson of Omaha, Nebraska; along with many other extended family.

A Celebration of Life will be held in his honor at the Angel's Camp Gun Club at 5 PM on Wednesday, July 16, with a reception following at 6pm. In Tyler's honor, this will be a casual event; He would want us all to come comfortably, such as Western wear, baseball clothes or fishing attire. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Tyler Tafjen Trust at Umpqua Bank.


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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-11 17:12:55   By: Anonymous
 


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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-11 18:41:35   By: Anonymous
 
May God comfort his family through this difficult time, Im so sorry for your loss.

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Prayers
Posted on: 2014-07-11 18:52:55   By: Anonymous
 
Praying for Strength to cope and heal for this young man's family and friends.. Such a tragedy.

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    Re: Prayers
    Posted on: 2014-07-11 20:07:03   By: Anonymous
     
    Respectfully, what happened to this fine young man (natural causes or otherwise)? May God Bless this family.

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      Re: what happened
      Posted on: 2014-07-11 21:34:33   By: Anonymous
       
      really, cause of death is none of your business.

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        Re: what happened
        Posted on: 2014-07-11 21:48:05   By: Anonymous
         
        Why not!!!!

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        Re: what happened
        Posted on: 2014-07-11 22:36:55   By: Anonymous
         
        With all due respect to his family and friends, knowing this may teach others in some way or another and leave a sliver of legacy for this bright and talented young man. Did I know him? No, but if I can pass something along to my kids or learn something for myself that can help my others, then....you need to ask yourself...is it really none of our business? If you still answer no, so be it, but think of his legacy for us to learn from him even in his passing.


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          Re: what happened
          Posted on: 2014-07-12 07:48:27   By: Anonymous
            Edited By: thepinetree
          On: 2014-07-13 08:38:26


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            Re: what happened
            Posted on: 2014-07-12 11:56:43   By: Anonymous
             
            This small county has been through quite a lot in the past couple years. As I would think, a village. Folks who live in a village PULL TOGETHER & HELP EACH OTHER OUT IN TIMES OF TRAGEDY. You need to share circumstances & discuss them throughout "your village" or your village will start to separate into groups & eventually, you won't be a village anymore. Let the folks in this county help each other any way they can. Not just the close friends to the family as he was such an AMAZING child, he has a very,very large EXTENDED FAMILY in HIS VILLAGE. The silence will be much more hurtful than helpful. God Bless Tyler & All of His Village.

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      Re: Prayers
      Posted on: 2014-07-11 22:19:45   By: Anonymous
        Edited By: thepinetree
      On: 2014-07-13 08:45:41


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        Re: Prayers
        Posted on: 2014-07-12 07:49:31   By: Anonymous
         
        We agree, the silence about what happened is sad.

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          Re: Prayers
          Posted on: 2014-07-12 10:13:31   By: Anonymous
           
          The family is under no obligation to turn the cause of his death into a public service announcement. He wasn't your child. You have no idea how they're feeling. None of us have any right to the cause of his death, and none of us have the right to tell them how to grieve.
          Stop being nosy. Its's none of your business.


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            Re: Prayers
            Posted on: 2014-07-12 11:29:47   By: Anonymous
             
            A note to Tyler. May You Rest In Peace young child. Folks here in our tiny community are having a tug of war with the reason for your passing at such a young age. Some say illness. Some say suicide. Some say drug overdose. Some say natural causes. Some say bullying. Some say things that may or not be true. How would YOU handle this situation if you were here with us? Silence or discussion? Blessings & Much Love To You.

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            Re: Prayers
            Posted on: 2014-07-12 12:10:53   By: Anonymous
             
            you say they don't his death to become a "public service announcement". Actually, that tells us something right there. Whatever the circumstances, this fine young boy felt he had absolutely NOWHERE OR NOBODY to go to or speak to that would understand what he was feeling. That is one of the saddest things I could imagine. It should not be wrong to speak your feelings if you need help. People out there in silenceland, history will repeat itself if there is no education on how to prevent suicide. God, I do pray for him & his family. Hearts are heavy right now. But you have to wonder if it were someone that you love & they reached out to Tyler, do you think he would keep silent or try & help them? Heaven has received it's newest angel, Tyler.

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      Re: Prayers
      Posted on: 2014-07-16 21:17:16   By: Anonymous
       
      I knew him.. Tyler was such a good kid and had such an amazing smile that lit up every room and place he entered. the cause of his death was suicide.. he hung himself inside his home..

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    Re: Prayers
    Posted on: 2014-07-11 21:12:01   By: Anonymous
     
    PRAYERS TO YOUR FAMILY, MAY GOD GIVE YOU PEACE AND THE STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH EVERYDAY! I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
    SENDING YOU LOTS OF HUGS

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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-11 20:36:43   By: Anonymous
 
I am so very sorry for your loss.

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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-11 23:09:22   By: Anonymous
 
I am so sorry for your family. My heart goes out to you.

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    Re:
    Posted on: 2014-07-12 11:45:09   By: Anonymous
     
    The comments on this post were left open for people to console and comfort the family and friends. If you see any comments that fall outside of these parameters please let us know at news@thepinetree.net. From all of us at ThePineTree.net our thoughts and prayers are with you.

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      Posted on: 2014-07-12 11:50:11   By: Anonymous
       
      Thank you, I agree and it sickens that people are so disrespectful. My thoughts and prayers for this young man's family and friends.

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        Posted on: 2014-07-12 20:37:16   By: Anonymous
          Edited By: thepinetree
        On: 2014-07-13 08:56:13


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      Re:
      Posted on: 2014-07-12 12:26:57   By: Anonymous
       
      It is not being disrespectful. I think that John should keep these comment sections up & running so we can share feelings & thoughts. People want to show support for the family & help anyway they can but someone is posting on their behalf, understandable. The person is such on these defense, it is not helping anyone. You should not have to be on the defense at this terrible time in our lives. But see, you may be trying to hide something. You must realize what a mess last year it was over the little Fowler girl that ended up horribly & the public was outraged at the end. I am sure that you don't want that negativity surrounding you. blessings to Tyler & his family. And thank you John.

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        Re:
        Posted on: 2014-07-12 12:37:42   By: Anonymous
         
        I find it caring & respectful that John is willing to let people talk about things in forum style. That shows that someone in this community wants people to be able to talk about their thoughts on the matter. If he chooses to close down comment again, maybe someone will be able to create somewhere on Facebook where people can discuss things. We need to pull together right now. May God Bless his family & loved ones. RIP Tyler.

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          Posted on: 2014-07-12 12:56:10   By: Anonymous
           
          If people could only show respect then perhaps it would not upset others. I did not know Tyler but I do know many of his friends. They are very saddened by what they see posted on the PineTree. Leave it open for comments but delete those that show disrespect. As a parent and human being I think the family in entitled to some time to process their tragic loss. Let them share when they are ready. Then we can try to help others, but please people allow the family and friends time to process and heal if that's possible. Needing to know RIGHT now is truly non of your business nor is it going to solve anything tomorrow. Be respectful and show your support . God's blessing to all.

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            Posted on: 2014-07-12 21:39:16   By: Anonymous
              Edited By: thepinetree
            On: 2014-07-13 09:01:59


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            Re:
            Posted on: 2014-07-16 13:41:16   By: Anonymous
             
            Well said. The family wishes privacy at this time and deserves it. The future will take care of itself. Rumors will fly but eventually the truth will be present itself. Be patient, please.

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        Posted on: 2014-07-12 12:53:14   By: Anonymous
         
        I only commented the one time above here. Obviously other people are upset about the manic interest in this, but to compare it to the Fowler case is not fair because the community was lead to believe that they were in danger and that a killer was on the loose then. That is not the case with this young man. All I am saying is have a little compassion. The details of this aren't really anyone's business. Get a hobby and leave it be.

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          Posted on: 2014-07-12 12:57:45   By: Anonymous
           
          Complete agree!

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Respectfully, what happened?
Posted on: 2014-07-12 16:24:39   By: Anonymous
 
What happened to this young man? Please, simply share a bit more for the community of those who truly do care. Thank you.

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    Re: Respectfully, what happened?
    Posted on: 2014-07-12 16:38:24   By: Anonymous
     
    So far, it appears to be suicide because everyone seems to be speculating. Not fair to him or his family. If it was a result of bullying, then something NEEDS to be done in our schools NOW. My heartfelt sympathies out to the family and friends.

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      Re: Respectfully, what happened?
      Posted on: 2014-07-12 16:39:29   By: Anonymous
       
      None of us have to know how, when or whatever. What we do need to know is "WHY"?

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        Re: Respectfully, what happened?
        Posted on: 2014-07-12 17:14:35   By: Anonymous
         
        When my mother died, the speculation was difficult to deal with. There are no complete answers...let it be and let the family console one another r without all these questions. The real importance here is that we have all lost a wonderful human being.

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    Re: Respectfully, what happened?
    Posted on: 2014-07-12 18:22:43   By: Anonymous
     
    If you really want to know, his death certificate will/should be public record and can be obtained from the County. Nobody's cause of death is private; death--like marriage and birth--is a public event. Whoever set up the trust fund further made the tragedy a public concern.

    I am always saddened to read of a young person's death. Prayers for his immortal soul and for the comfort of his family and friends.

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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-12 20:43:11   By: Anonymous
 
you'd think with all the bossy you-know-whats commenting here that not a single child in this community would be allowed to cuss!

What is it with you bossy (I want to say) women? Who quit and left you in charge? Time to get off your high horses and practice a little humility while this community grapples with this crisis. And make no mistake, suicide among high school children is a crisis. Just look at other areas of this country, it's contagious.

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    Posted on: 2014-07-12 21:23:49   By: Anonymous
     
    I am a student at Bret Harte and a friend of Tyler's. The comments I have seen here and the comments from a few days ago make me very angry and sad. We are trying to deal with the loss of another friend, that is all that matters right now. I know how he passed as do all those who knew him. Can you please stop and give us some time please!

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      Posted on: 2014-07-12 21:41:58   By: Anonymous
       
      why does the family need to ask for time here? Discussions are just that, discussions among people. It's life, people.

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        Posted on: 2014-07-15 15:53:22   By: Anonymous
         
        It may be discussion but at least make it positive. I was a friend of Tyler's and like said above, the disrespect and arguments anger me too. I knew the family as well and they would not be happy to see what is posted here. If you are going to have a discussion please make it positive.

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      Posted on: 2014-07-12 21:43:48   By: Anonymous
       
      This is a sharing post, your "I've got mine, you can't have any" attitude gets in the way of the cathartic sharing.

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      Posted on: 2014-07-12 21:46:48   By: Anonymous
       
      this example of yet one more young adult death in our community screams for a discussion, regardless of the details the family chooses to hold close. We have no wish to see this happen again and so the discussion must happen. Someone knows something that can help our fine young men and women survive this crisis in our community.

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      Posted on: 2014-07-12 22:32:08   By: Anonymous
       
      I'm so sorry about your friend. There are some people who post on sites like this one habitually and try to start drama :( I'm really sorry that he's chosen this to rant about.

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        Posted on: 2014-07-12 22:56:39   By: Anonymous
         
        that's pretty funny. You think someone is trying to "start drama" off this tragedy? We're living drama right now, no joke.

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        Re:
        Posted on: 2014-07-14 09:57:23   By: Anonymous
         
        saving children is the point of this discussion, sounds like you don't care that much about saving children. I'm disappointed to see this.

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        Re:
        Posted on: 2014-07-14 15:18:37   By: Anonymous
         
        I think it's just one person. The writing style is always the same.

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          Re:
          Posted on: 2014-07-16 15:42:11   By: Anonymous
           
          if someone knows whoever is harassing this thread,about the cause of death,they should out them and maybe they wont,be so disrespectful....this community is filled with suspicious minds,it seems

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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-13 08:15:56   By: Anonymous
 
We have 2 boys that are friends of Tyler and many other young men that regularly visit our home that are also his friends. We have a daughter that is friends with Tyler's little sister...Our children are at a loss as to how to cope with such an untimely and tragic loss! I can not even imagine going through the loss of a child. My prayers go out to Tyler's family and friends. This is a very difficult time for all of us and while I understand the public's concern re: the cause of death, I am at a loss as to why there is so much tension, anger and sense of entitlement in some of these posts. This community needs time to grieve and insisting that those close to Tyler divulge the cause of death is quite disrespectful. If the specific cause of death needed to be made public to keep others safe from harm then that would be different. If you pay attention to social media and postings about groups offering assistance then you would know the general cause of death, the specifics are no ones business.

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    Posted on: 2014-07-13 08:20:08   By: Anonymous
     
    Very well said, thank you !

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    Re:
    Posted on: 2014-07-13 08:50:06   By: Anonymous
     
    the death is the cause of the tension, anger. Duh.

    Community grieving is impossible without knowing more details. How would it be for the family to grieve, not knowing how a loved one died? Hello.

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    Posted on: 2014-07-13 08:51:50   By: Anonymous
     
    what is this "general cause of death" or do you not know either?

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    Posted on: 2014-07-13 08:53:25   By: Anonymous
     
    actually, it is disrespectful to ignore the danger that is lurking in the community, ready to strike out at another young person.

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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-13 10:40:26   By: Anonymous
 
I believe that it is pretty well known by now that this young man took his own life. It is tragic and so very sad but the details of "how" he ended his life are not important, the fact is...he did it. The means one uses to take their own life are very shocking and personal to the family and stating exactly how may drag up unnecessary criticism for the family wether it's by drugs, guns, hanging, in a car running in the garage or whatever other means you can think of, it should not be the main point in any conversation re: this tragedy. What should be the main point is speaking to those you know about how and where to ask for help. Access to Live On and other support systems are available. My 3 children and all their friends know the means in which he so tragically ended his life and as with the rest of us, we do not understand. We can only support each other and pray that Tyler is in a better place and not suffering with the troubles that brought him to this point. He was a very well liked, happy kid on all outward appearances. It is not anyone's place to make judgement or assumptions as to why he did it, with the exception of his family and even they are reeling and struggling to understand the reason why. So as a community, all we should be doing is offering our love and support to the family and community that knew Tyler and speaking to those we are concerned about so that this does not happen to anyone else that we love.

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    Posted on: 2014-07-13 11:40:22   By: Anonymous
     
    That's what most of us have been trying to say. The bottom line here is that there are a few people who have nothing better to do than stir the pot. We all should be talking to our children about where to go for help and let them know that no matter how bad something is they can talk to us. My children know that I am always
    here for them. You can never be to close to your children. If you don't have that kind of relationship with your children make sure they know the resources available to them. My children tell me about concerns for their friends and neither my children nor I have a problem letting that child's parents know there may be something going on. Bring it to the attention of someone at the school. A cry out for help could save a life.
    We know the details of how Tyler died and it truly is no one's business how. As the person above posted all you need to know is getting the resources to your child and talk to them, keep talking to them. Tell them about bullying that may or may not have been involved in this case but again it does not matter.
    I pray Tyler is at peace and pray his family and friends can find peace.

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      Posted on: 2014-07-13 13:15:29   By: Anonymous
       
      Thank you, whoever you are for agreeing with my post above yours. Praying for all these poor kids who knew and were friends with Tyler and most importantly, his family. These kids have seen a tremendous amount of loss in the last year and it's just heartbreaking 😢

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        Posted on: 2014-07-13 16:22:23   By: Anonymous
         
        As a friend of the family, I urge those of us in support of the family NOT engage in thoughtless remarks made by insensitive individuals. There are many excellent points made by those close to Tyler and his family. Please find a small ounce of kindness and respect in your hearts to use this forum to support the family and friends in this uncertain time. There are many teens, children and adults looking for answers and their place in this life after a horrible tragedy. This can only be done by holding out your hand and hearts and giving kindness to others, not only in this community but elsewhere.
        There have been many answers already provided in this forum. Specifics are not necessary, now or ever. If you are that concerned about the impact on the community and its children, I suggest you take your time and energy and educate your own children OR volunteer in one of the support organizations listed in the forum or in the local news.

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          Posted on: 2014-07-13 18:45:22   By: Anonymous
           
          an anonymous person here posted that this death is by suicide.

          Sometimes a person who takes their own life leaves a note explaining what happened. Was there something happening in the community that led him to take his life? Bullying is a scourge leaving scars in many, many American communities. If bullying is the reason I hope action will be taken to stop it immediately.

          As you can see, the ripple effect could catch more boys and girls, wouldn't that be a shame if we let this happen again.

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          Posted on: 2014-07-13 18:50:08   By: Anonymous
           
          the stream flows the same all year long, which means the wetland will never disappear. Duh.

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No Subject
Posted on: 2014-07-16 15:17:12   By: Anonymous
 
Our thoughts and prayers to Tyler's family and friends. RIP Tyler

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